Netflix to Customers: Up Yours – Why Phony Corporate Apologies Backfire
By James E. Lukaszewski, Founder, The Lukaszewski Group
As I read Reid Hastings’ letter this week to customers, in what appeared to be an apology for the price increase mess, my expectations were met immediately with disappointment, then disbelief.
Here’s a smart guy who shot a huge torpedo into the guts of his company, watched it blow up, and, along with many others, is still assessing the damages. So, he decides that what his departing customers need to hear, rather than an apology, is a bunch of management school gibberish that fails to answer two big questions: “What were they thinking?” And, “Do they really care, anyway?”
Instead of apologizing (although Hastings uses the word three times), working to mollify both the thousands who have left, and the thousands who will leave, he writes a letter that essentially says, “I love myself. I am really really smart and you should love me, too. Let me count the ways for you.”
What follows is the mantra of American business today: Never apologize, never, never, never. If you want to look like a sissy, apologize. If you want to look weak, apologize. If you want to look like a cave-in to the lesser mortals, apologize. Want to look utterly silly in front of your business school buddies (male or female), apologize. If you’re a coward, apologize.
When will these business types begin to understand the two crucial ingredients of the relationship with any and all constituencies? Namely that:
- Trust is based on providing information before the potential victims need it. Netflix intentionally failed here.
- A sincere apology is actually the atomic energy of empathy, and can prevent or at least moderate the creation of critics and victims, while detoxifying bad news.
A credible apology has five principal components:
- An admission that harm was done through the actions of the perpetrator.
- The perpetrator explains and shows evidence of understanding the nature of the harm caused.
- The perpetrator’s statement of profound regret, remorse, and recognition contains some of the lessons the perpetrator has learned that will help avoid similar harmful circumstances in the future.
- The perpetrator humbly asks for forgiveness from all those affected.
- The perpetrator voluntarily imposes some serious penance for the benefit of those adversely affected, and may even invite in outside oversight to ensure that appropriate measures have been taken to resolve the matter, and prevent future mistakes.
Instead, in what has become the classic style of business faux apology, Mr. Hastings does the following:
- Attempt to explain what the company is doing and why. The question is: “Why we should care?”
- He talks about what was “not their intent” by explaining that in fact all this turmoil was their intent, “It wouldn’t have changed the price increase, but it (telling you about it) would have been the right thing to do.” What on earth does this mean?
- He talks about himself throughout the entire letter, which was supposed to be, one presumes, to help customers adjust to the company’s screw-up. Mr. Hastings uses “I” a dozen times. What incredible arrogance.
- He continues his devastating customer discussion by mentioning that there will be two websites and to make it more complicated for customers these sites will be separate and incompatible. Why doesn’t he just say that they want their DVD customers to take a hike to the thousands of little red one-dollar machines on every street corner?
- He pulls the same stunt so many business perpetrators do by issuing, what amounts to a fourth phony apology at the end of the letter, “…And to apologize again to those members, both current and former, who felt we treated them thoughtlessly.” Thoughtlessly? The company’s action caused tens of thousands of families to sacrifice a small but crucial personal pleasure due to the yet to be plausibly explained greed of his company.
Failure to apologize effectively always leaves far more questions than answers. Yet, does Mr. Hastings respectfully invite additional inquiries and promise additional explanations?
His last sentence essentially says it all:
“The Qwikster and Netflix teams will work hard to regain your trust. [How? By splitting the service in two and making everything more complicated and expensive?] We know it will not be overnight. [How many more arrogant screw-ups do you have in store?] Actions speak louder than words. [Tell us about it.] But words help people to understand actions.” [Maybe it’s time to take an empathy course, probably at a small school in Minnesota. You won’t find it in any business school curriculum.]
“Up yours; strong message [i.e., we only care about ourselves] to follow.”
Rarely in the annals of a successful consumer franchise like Netflix can its legacy be so quickly and permanently stained. Yes, permanently—this goofy decision and its self- inflicted consequences will always be included in stories, discussions, and analyses of this company.
The main lesson: Bad always news ripens badly. And this story and this product will still be decaying for a while.
James E. Lukaszewski is the funder of The Lukaszewski Group, where he advises, coaches, and counsels the men and women who run very large corporations and organizations through extraordinary problems and critical high-profile circumstances. He is listed in Corporate Legal Times as one of “28 Experts to Call When All Hell Breaks Loose,” and in PR Week as one of 22 “crunch-time counselors who should be on the speed dial in a crisis.”